(I actually have nowhere else to write it. But I had to write it down, so I'm writing it here.)
It's so much easier to see and then believe,
rather than believing before we see.
The idea is to make believe that we see - 'con ourselves' - to see; and in turn further con ourselves that we do then, in fact, believe.
It's who we are as humans, to be defensive
Be insecure - it's what we've learnt over our living years. You can't be too sure of anything. There's always that chance of unforeseen circumstances. And we take that as a learning to BE careful yet in such a way begin by cynicism - just to test reliability.
Afraid of rejection, afraid of failure; ultimately afraid to lose that trust-ego-esteem we have in ourselves keeping us up and happy, positive.
They say, you never know until you try. It's almost the same as the cynicism of disbelief if you turned it around, instead of "that won't always happen. it can't be a 100% success" = "that could always happen. it can't be a 100% failure". Problem here, is we only fear failure and not success, thus we only see what's not good for us - ready to avoid.
Religiously, I've been taught to walk into problems as learning opportunities. Almost like learning a person. To meet, to interact and learn about that someone as with a problem, so that the next time we meet again, we'd know how to counteract.
However, my lecturer said: the smart ones solve the problem, and the smarter ones feed off the solution without even stepping into it. A little bit on the fast track, cutting corners and skipping for the cream. Though not entirely wrong.
The way I see it. Nobody takes an opinion of a person exactly the same way - as with a problem. Different ways of interactions lead to different lessons and ultimately different strategies to counteract. So, I'd still stand on facing it than not. Afterall, the more u see, the more lines u learn to draw to figure new things half related to it, rather than a text book 1-for-1 equation.
So, for best outcomes - we've been taught to step into things with all our heart and give our best efforts. To see what is yet to be seen. (make belief if you ask me =P) Judging that we can't possibly give our best unless we trust ourselves to succeed, we gotta make it believable; and somehow believe that we believe. (if that makes sense...) How do we do that? Easy, LIE. Haha or distract from the part you think you'd fail. Either ways, CON!
And as for the failures, learn to kick it up and see what you learnt and know that your time is running, but not out. To see enough examples to let yourself know - failing this doesn't mean failing everything else. John Nash, "there's almost always more than one solution to every problem." Ultimately, back to make belief - "knowing" your dream is there and achievable. So you don't stop because there is no reason to.
Why am I writing this? Because I'm having problems trying to see positivity and believing that I can achieve what I want to achieve. I've seen a dozen people do it. But I don't seem to see me there next to them bearing the same qualities. Somehow, somehow I've got to get there. And I will. Dreams.
In this post's defense, in a way, it IS somewhat related to architecture. The idea of learning your subject - your market. The people we design for. The users of our architecture. To understand how they see things, see us and our product. And my conclusion here today is that, CON, has and always will be, the best way to kick-start. To reel their hearts in, and slowly work your way through later on - as with giving your 'dream' a shot - and making effort to stay strong all the way.
See, lines! I believe there was a mathematician/science guy who was trying to prove that everything was related to each other in their own forms of nature - ultimately in essence of nature alone, you get everything else.
